Arranged Marriage
An
arranged marriage is a marriage that is established before involving
oneself in a lengthy relationship, and often involves the arrangement of
someone else other than the person getting married.An arranged marriage
involves the parents of the married couple to varying degrees:In a
forced marriage, the parents choose their son's or daughter's future
spouse with no input from them. In this rare form of arranged marriage,
if the son or daughter refuses the choice, he or she may be punished, or
in rare cases, killed. In most such cases, the marriage simply takes
place anyway, overriding the bride's or bridegroom's objections.
Motivating factors for such a marriage tend to be social or economic,
i.e., the interests of the family or community that are served by the
marriage are seen as paramount, and the will of the individual is
insignificant.
In a traditional arranged marriage (not forced), the parents choose
their son's or daughter's future spouse with some input from the to be
bride or bridegroom. If either the son or daughter refuse the choice,
the parents tend to respect their wishes and choose another possible
spouse. However, considerable pressure may be brought to bear to make
the potential bride or bridegroom see the reasoning. The main motivating
factor in such marriages is the happiness of the son or daughter, but
viewed from a paternalistic/maternalistic angle ("Parents know best").
In a modern arranged marriage, the involvement of the to be bride or
bridegroom is considerably more. Parents chooses several possible
candidates. The parents will then arrange a meeting with the family of
the prospective mate, and the couple will often have a short,
unsupervised "date". The will then eventually choose whom they wish to
marry, although parents may exert small degrees of pressure on the child
to make a certain choice of which they approve. The happiness of the
child is the main concern, and the parents see their role as responsible
facilitators and well-wishers.
List of Arranged Marriage Sites
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www.pardesiservices.com/tradition/arrangedmarg.asp
www.kamat.com/indica/culture/sub-cultures/arranged_marriage.htm
members.tripod.com/~Berchmans/arrange.html
weddings.iloveindia.com/features/love-and-arranged-marriages.html
www.zackvision.com/weblog/2003/06/arranged-marriage.html
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